Episode 6: The Inconceivable Truth
Gutwrenching, broken silence. That was the only thing left in the wake of guest Shreeda Tailor's story. We had no words.
A husband's sorrow. A mother's grief. Losses that neither they nor doctors can explain clearly--and the sad fact that medicine still struggles to reason the miscarriages and infertility that afflict over 7.4 million women.
The most powerful episode of The Woke Desi explores infertility, miscarriage and South Asian culture. Men contribute to or cause 40% of infertility in couples. 1 in 4 to 1 in 5 pregnancies will end in a miscarriage. With such high rates, one would imagine the South Asian population would speak about these losses and obstacles with more openness but sadly, the opposite is true. For cultures that are so results-driven, the struggle to conceive a child or birth a child is often seen as a failure. Both women and men are encouraged to move on, but are often omitted from religious functions or isolated in their sadness.
Shreeda's story, backed with the expertise of infertility specialist Dr. Rashmi Kudesia, allows men and women of all ages to understand the pain and grieving of this all-too-common loss, support those experiencing it, and serves as a lesson on how to empower oneself regarding your reproductive health. This critical episode is one TWD team hopes everyone will listen to, pass on to those who are suffering, and learn from.
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Have you gone through infertility treatments? Have you or someone you know experienced child loss? We are sincerely sorry for your experiences. If you'd like to share or support others, please head to our forum and post under this episode's discussion board. We would love to let you know you aren't alone.
American Pregnancy Association: A resource for surviving miscarriage emotionally
Good Housekeeping: The Best Advice I Received After My Miscarriage
Grieving a Miscarriage: A New York Times Blog Post
The Compassionate Friends Network: A support group for grieving your child
Resolve: The National Infertility Association